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Wondering if paying The Knot and WeddingWire will actually get you the leads and bookings you need? You’re definitely not alone. It’s one of the most common questions wedding pros ask me!
Most wedding pros I talk to feel the pressure to pay for these platforms just to keep things moving. But let’s be real—does it actually make sense for your business?
In this post, I’m going to break down whether these platforms are really worth it, how to figure out if they’re a good fit for your business, and what you can do to take control of your marketing so you’re not dependent on The Knot or WeddingWire to keep those inquiries rolling in.
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ToggleFor better or for worse, The Knot and WeddingWire (which merged to form WeddingPro) have built the largest advertising platform in the wedding industry. They rank at the top of Google for tons of keywords and it can feel like they’re this behemoth you have to play ball with even if you don’t want to.
Let’s start by looking at the pros and cons of these two big wedding platforms, so you can get a better sense of what you’re really paying for and if it is worth it for your wedding business.
Both WeddingWire and The Knot used to offer free profiles where they’d allow you to have a limited listing for free and try to upsell you into a paid package. I have been trying to hunt down how to do this and have not been successful.
I requested more information from both The Knot & WeddingWire as a vendor and I do not see an option to create a free listing. At this point, I think this may only be available to vendors who already have profiles or after speaking to a sales rep and declining to sign up as a paid advertiser.
The vendors I know who have free listings only have them for the purposes of collecting and maintaining their reviews. Free profiles will not be shown anywhere near the top when couples are searching but if you’re in a smaller market, it’s possible you may still be found.
So while it’s possible to use WeddingWire and The Knot for free, your listing will be buried under a mountain of paying customers.
We have to remember that WeddingWire and The Knot are in the business of selling advertising space, so why would they give it away?
The cost of advertising on The Knot and WeddingWire can vary widely depending on several factors, including your location, the type of service you offer, and the level of competition in your market.
On average, pricing starts at around $125-$150 per month, but in larger, more competitive markets, it can easily climb to over $1,000 per month. But keep in mind that is a starting price. Featured listings can range $5,000-$15,000 per year.
I don’t have an exact answer for you here because there is no across the board transparent pricing for advertising on The Knot & WeddingWire. They adjust the pricing based on location, vendor type, and competition.
One of the key things to keep in mind is that these platforms require you to sign a 12-month contract, which means you’re committing to a year of payments, regardless of whether the platform brings you results. Unlike advertising platforms like Google or Meta (Facebook and Instagram), where you can control your budget and pause campaigns as needed, you’re locked into this cost for a full year.
This can be risky for vendors who aren’t sure whether their ideal clients are even using these platforms. It’s essential to consider this long-term financial commitment and weigh it against potential returns before making the decision to invest.
Wedding vendors have reported that their prices have increased each year and have sometimes been automatically renewed without realizing that was possible.
Since WeddingWire and The Knot have formed WeddingPro as a single company, the differences aren’t as noticeable as they used to be.
WeddingWire seems to still be targeted to lower-budget couples. I signed up as a bride myself and saw that the filters for price started surprisingly low. It populates a default message that allows users to send the same message to huge numbers of vendors. This makes it easier to inquire but it also makes the leads less qualified.
The Knot directs couples to request a quote and does not provide the same populated default message so couples actually do have to provide custom information to get a quote.
Sales reps are going to tell you that you should advertise on both because different people use each platform. That’s their job as sales reps, to sell you as much advertising space as possible.
While the audiences may differ between WeddingWire and The Knot, I haven’t seen a distinct difference.
WeddingWire and The Knot are essentially the same platforms with different branding and slightly different features.
Your ideal clients may use one but not the other so it’s important to do the ideal client research you need to find out before you advertise on The Knot or WeddingWire.
Now, let’s get real—whether The Knot or WeddingWire will work for you depends on some key factors.
If you’re in a super competitive market, you’ll probably have to invest more to get noticed. If you’re in a smaller market, you might get more visibility for a lower cost. But it all depends on how crowded the space is and how popular The Knot and WeddingWire are in your area.
One of the biggest things to consider is whether your ideal clients are even using these platforms.
If your ideal client is the kind of person who finds vendors through Instagram, niche wedding blogs, or by word of mouth, The Knot and WeddingWire might not be where they’re hanging out.
And if your ideal client values unique, out-of-the-box experiences, they may not be drawn to the cookie-cutter style of these big platforms.
If your pricing or style doesn’t align with the typical couple on The Knot or WeddingWire, you might end up with a lot of unqualified leads.
It’s important to ask yourself if the people browsing these platforms are looking for the kind of services you provide and if they’re willing to pay your prices.
Sure, you might get a lot of leads by advertising with The Knot or WeddingWire, but if they’re not converting into bookings, what’s the point?
Many wedding vendors find themselves getting inquiries that are more about price than quality. If you’re targeting higher-budget, more selective clients, these platforms might not bring in the right people.
When you’re deciding whether to invest in The Knot or WeddingWire, it’s not just about the monthly fee. You’ve got to think about the return on investment (ROI) and what you might be missing out on (opportunity cost).
Let’s talk numbers. If you’re spending $300 a month on The Knot or WeddingWire and booking one wedding every three months for $2,000, you’re seeing a positive ROI.
But if you’re not booking enough to justify the cost, that money is just going down the drain.
Are the leads you’re getting from The Knot & WeddingWire actually converting into bookings?
Your lead-to-booking ratio can be calculated by taking the number of leads you get from a particular source and dividing it by the number of those leads that turned into bookings.
How does that compare to the lead-to-booking ratio for other marketing activities?
If for instance, you’re booking 1 client for every 20 leads from The Knot and you’re booking 1 client for every 2 leads from referral sources, it may make a lot more sense to focus on getting more leads from those referral sources.
Here’s the kicker—what else could you be doing with that time and money if it weren’t tied up in these platforms? That’s opportunity cost.
Yes, they do. Some wedding pros swear by The Knot and WeddingWire, and there are cases where vendors see positive results from advertising on these platforms.
But here’s the truth: after more than a decade of helping wedding professionals with their marketing, the majority of the people I’ve worked with who pay to advertise on The Knot and WeddingWire do not see the results they were hoping for.
A lot of it comes down to lead quality. While you might get a high volume of inquiries, many wedding pros find that the leads they receive aren’t qualified.
Often, these inquiries are from couples who are price shopping or not really serious about booking. And if you’re trying to market premium services or attract higher-end clients, this can lead to frustration and hours of wasted time every week.
Whether or not these platforms will work for you depends heavily on your market, your positioning, and whether your ideal clients even use The Knot or WeddingWire.
If your ideal clients aren’t using these platforms to find their vendors, no matter how much you pay, you’re unlikely to see a return on your investment.
Of course, there are vendors who do see success. For some, especially those in less competitive markets or those with a broader target audience, The Knot and WeddingWire can generate leads that convert.
However, even when vendors are successful, it’s typically because they’ve optimized their profiles, have had those profiles for a long time, collected stellar reviews, and are working in markets where their ideal clients frequently use these platforms.
So, yes, there are wedding pros who get positive results from The Knot and WeddingWire. But for the majority of vendors I’ve worked with, the return just isn’t there, and they find that building their own lead generation system is a much more effective long-term solution.
I asked my clients and wedding vendors who subscribe to my email list what their experience has been like with The Knot and WeddingWire. Here’s what these wedding pros had to say.
When asked what their results were like, 66.7% of these wedding pros didn’t make as much as they spent on advertising with The Knot and WeddingWire.
10.6% broke even with how much they spent and 22.7% made more than they spent.
79.7% of wedding pros surveyed said it wasn’t worth it and they stopped advertising with The Knot & WeddingWire.
20.3% said it was totally worth it and they continue to advertise with The Knot & WeddingWire.
Several common themes emerged from the survey responses regarding frustrations with advertising on WeddingWire and The Knot.
📣 “They “lost” my long-standing page so while visible if you really want to find it, you cannot add reviews, images, edit content etc.”
📣 “Changing my storefront for SEO without my permission, spammy leads, sending competitors info after leads clicked to connect with me, no support for vendors, actively promoting DIYing my services (I’m a planner) or that my services aren’t needed.”
📣 “I have 230, 5.0 reviews. I spoke with my sales rep and she said if I discontinue working with them I will not be able to keep my great reviews. I feel like I’m being held hostage.”
Here are the common themes from the responses about what wedding professionals would say to another wedding pro considering advertising with The Knot or WeddingWire:
Here are some direct quotes from wedding pros about what they’d like you to know about their experience advertising with The Knot and WeddingWire:
📣 “In the beginning, I felt it was different and I received a few quality leads that resulted in bookings but the last couple of years were a loss of money.”
📣 “I was young and they were SO eager to sell me a silver bullet. They prey on naivete and don’t ask enough questions to determine whether you may NOT be a fit.”
📣 “It works for some. I get a lot of leads. Many times the couples don’t respond back but that is to be expected if they contact a bunch of officiants. Most of my work comes from leads on these platforms. I am relocating next year and will see if I have similar success. But sometimes geography affects results.”
📣 “If it is not The Knot or WeddingWire, then it will be another wedding website that relies on advertising to make a profit. It is easy to say it’s good or bad but you have to be diligent about the effort you put into your business. Some people don’t think it works because they think all leads should lead to business, and that’s not the case. Leads are just that…but you’re still competing with other professionals who want the leads you want. You have to put in the work to establish your own brand and do the work outside of advertising on their platform to break free of feeling they are a necessity. NETWORK, NETWORK, NETWORK!”
📣 “I definitely have done more business since signing on with them. I wish they would limit the couples to 3 or 4 pros to contact. I understand that they cannot do that, though.”
📣 “We advertised with them for 8 years and only recently pulled the plug. My rate had grown to $1100/month. I’m using that for things like blog posts and other ways to improve organic search results.”
📣 “The only reason I made more than I spent is because I luckily was booking a package that made it worthwhile financially. I couldn’t justify spending $120+ per month on getting a handful of leads annually that would go anywhere, and not even be on the front page of listings. I even had to fire a client that came from this source. There have been a couple of golden clients I got from here but in the span of my whole business (4+ years) and well over 50 weddings by this point, less than 5 of those wonderful clients came from this source.”
Multiple wedding pros told me that WeddingWire and The Knot made them promises about what their results would look like and this really bothered me.
Nobody has the ability to actually promise you results when it comes to marketing and advertising. It’s impossible. It requires strategic tweaking and testing and not everything works for everyone.
If someone is PROMISING you results if you advertise with them, pay them to do marketing for you, pay for their course or programs, or pay them to do SEO for you, RUN. That is an absolutely gigantic red flag. 🚩🚩🚩
This is true of anything related to marketing, advertising, getting more leads, and getting more clients.
In July 2023, The New York Post and Forbes broke the story of 3 longtime employees of The Knot who decided to become whistleblowers. They left the company and accused The Knot of defrauding investors and advertisers to land a $1 billion sale in 2018.
These former high-ranking employees said that The Knot falsified national advertising reports, sold premium advertising to wedding vendors that never actually appeared on the site due to wide-ranging tech issues, and altered contracts after they had been finalized among many other things.
They also claim employees were threatened into silence, vendors received fake inquiries intentionally, vendors were sold on impossible promises of return on investment, and the sales department made it almost impossible for a vendor to actually cancel their contract.
I’ve personally had the pleasure of speaking to one of these whistleblowers privately and the problems are far-reaching and impact everyone from small wedding vendors to large corporations to employees.
The list of issues The Knot Whistleblowers raise is extensive and alarming. In the essay they authored, they say:
“We are speaking up now on behalf of our colleagues who were pressured into acts that they knew were wrong but were scared into submission, their voices silenced by NDAs. We are speaking up for the clients harmed by the company’s siphoning of revenue from customers around the country, and its lack of appropriate action to remedy this. And we are speaking up for the right to speak up itself. We loved much of our time at The Knot, but none of us signed NDAs in exchange for hush money, and we will not remain silent any longer.”
They continue to collect information from vendors and work to change the laws around corporate NDAs. If those employees who were silenced by NDAs would have been able to speak out, the fraud that impacted wedding vendors would have never continued as long as it did.
Because there is no admission of these issues on The Knot’s part, it’s impossible to tell if they have been fixed.
Forbes reported that at least some of these very concerning practices remain.
Here’s the thing: simply throwing money at advertising on The Knot or WeddingWire will not solve your marketing problems. Too many wedding pros think that paying these platforms will automatically bring them the results they want, but that’s not how it works.
You can’t just toss money at your marketing and expect leads and bookings to magically appear.
The real issue is that advertising on these platforms doesn’t address the root cause of the problem—it’s a Band-Aid, not a solution.
If your messaging isn’t dialed in, if you don’t know who your ideal clients are, or if your overall marketing strategy is unclear, paying for ads is just throwing money into the wind.
And this is where so many wedding pros get stuck. They think by paying The Knot or WeddingWire, they can abdicate their marketing entirely.
But here’s the truth: you cannot outsource your marketing without having a clear strategy in place. And throwing money at The Knot or WeddingWire is not a marketing strategy.
As the CEO of your business, you need to stay in control. You can’t hand the reins to a third-party platform and hope for the best. You still need a solid marketing foundation, otherwise, you’re just wasting your time and money.
So what’s the alternative? Instead of relying on platforms like The Knot and WeddingWire, it’s time to take control of your marketing by creating your own lead-generation machine—one that consistently attracts and books your ideal clients.
Yes, this will take some effort, but it’s the difference between wasting time on unqualified leads and filling your calendar with clients you actually want to work with.
You do this by creating your own marketing plan. It’s one of the most important things I teach members of The Wedding Business Collective to do because it allows you to build your own lead machine.
You can’t market effectively unless you know exactly who you’re trying to attract. The most successful wedding pros I work with have a crystal-clear understanding of their ideal clients—their preferences, pain points, values, and buying behaviors.
This is critical because your marketing needs to speak directly to them, so you become their go-to vendor. They don’t want just another planner or photographer or caterer. They want YOU.
Think of it like this: If you’re trying to market to everyone, you’re marketing to no one. You’ll blend into the noise.
But if your marketing feels like a perfect fit for your ideal client, you’ll stand out as the obvious choice.
Inside The Wedding Business Collective, I take clients through my Clone Your Best Clients process where they get into the heads of their best clients and find out how to attract more clients just like them.
Take action: Think about the clients you’ve worked with that you wish you could clone. What do they care about? What kind of experience are they looking for? What are their biggest frustrations when planning their wedding?
Once you know the answers to these questions, you can shape your messaging and marketing efforts to attract more clients like them.
Once you know who you’re marketing to, it’s time to craft messaging that speaks their language. Messaging is all about how you talk to your ideal client.
It’s not just about what you do, but why it matters to them and why you’re different from everyone else.
Think of your messaging as a magnet for your ideal client—it should draw them in by speaking directly to their needs and desires. The best messaging connects emotionally with your audience, showing them you understand their struggles and have the perfect solution.
Inside The Wedding Business Collective, this step is made so much easier because your ideal clients tell you exactly what you need to say in your messaging if you want to attract more clients just like them.
Take action: Review your website, social media, and marketing materials. Does your messaging align with what your ideal clients care about?
Are you addressing their specific problems and showcasing why you’re the best person to help them? If not, it’s time to tweak it.
Make sure your messaging is consistent across every platform you’re on—from your website copy to your Instagram captions.
This is where most people start (but it’s actually step three for a reason). The “how” is all about where you’ll show up and what tactics you’ll use to reach your ideal clients.
But here’s the thing—if you don’t have a clear picture of who your ideal client is and how to talk to them, no marketing tactic on the planet is going to work. That’s why we work through understanding your ideal client and messaging first.
Once you’ve nailed that, it’s time to map out your marketing tactics. Where will you market yourself?
What platforms make the most sense based on where your ideal clients spend their time? And how often will you show up on these platforms?
The key is to keep it simple and focused. You don’t need to be everywhere at once—you just need to be where your ideal clients are. Choose a few platforms that make sense for your business and create a game plan for how you’ll show up consistently.
Inside The Wedding Business Collective, members choose 3 marketing platforms to focus on based on what they’ve learned from their ideal clients and what is already working for them. That approach allows your marketing to get easier and easier over time.
Take action: Pick three marketing platforms (I call them channels) to focus on for the next 90 days. These could be anything from Instagram and SEO to wedding shows and vendor referrals. The idea is to choose platforms where your ideal clients are likely to find you.
Then, plan out what you’ll do for each one—whether it’s posting consistently, attending local events, or networking with other vendors. Most importantly, make sure these tasks are scheduled on your calendar so they actually get done.
Here’s where things get really good: Your marketing should get easier over time, not harder.
How? By letting your data do the heavy lifting. Instead of guessing what’s working, you should be tracking the results of your efforts so you can make informed decisions about where to focus your energy.
If certain strategies or platforms are bringing in the majority of your leads, double down on those. On the flip side, if something isn’t delivering results, it’s time to stop wasting time and move on. The goal is to do more of what works and ditch what doesn’t.
Inside The Wedding Business Collective, we have Quarterly Planning Sessions where we review what happened in the past 90 days and plan for the next 90 days. This ensures your data is making the decisions for you, not your emotions.
Take action: Set aside time each month to review your marketing metrics. What posts or strategies are driving the most inquiries? What’s converting those inquiries into bookings? What’s falling flat?
Make adjustments based on what the data is telling you. By doing this consistently, you’ll be able to refine your marketing and make it more effective over time, all while cutting out the tasks that aren’t moving the needle.
The Knot and WeddingWire can work for some wedding pros, but they’re not the only option. They’re definitely not where I recommend wedding pros start because you have to be sure your ideal client is even using those platforms before spending thousands of dollars.
I don’t personally care whether my clients advertise with The Knot or WeddingWire. I care about whether it works for them or not. I do have some clients who get a significant amount of bookings from The Knot & WeddingWire and they happily pay to advertise every year because it’s a great return on their investment.
But to be totally truthful, those wedding vendors are the minority.
Whether you decide to advertise with WeddingWire or The Knot, you should not be relying on them.
That’s why I cringe when I see them using testimonials like this. Having all your eggs in one basket is not a flex. It’s playing with fire and eventually, you’ll get burnt.
WeddingWire and The Knot are not a silver bullet or a quick fix and I meet a lot of wedding pros who view them that way. Even if they work wonderfully for you, that is a DANGEROUS way to run your business.
No business should rely on a single lead source whether that’s The Knot and WeddingWire, referrals, Instagram, or any other source. What will you do if all of a sudden that lead source dries up?
What if they decide to double or triple their prices?
What if their algorithm changes and it penalizes you?
What if they go out of business?
By taking control of your marketing, you can build a lead-generation system that works for you, brings in the right clients, and allows you to stop wasting money on platforms that might not deliver. It also allows you to stop relying on 3rd parties to bring you leads, leaving you powerless in your own business.
If you’re ready to build your lead-generating system for your wedding business, start by understanding your ideal client, refining your messaging, planning your marketing, and using data to guide your decisions.
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