Some people call me an OG of wedding business marketing, but deep down I'm just another person wearing PJ bottoms on Zoom. I swear a lot, I share my struggles, and I don't pretend to be better than anyone else.
[Today’s post is a guest post from Amy Zellmer. You can learn more about managing your entrepreneur mindset from Amy in The Wedding Business Collective.]
We all have them. Things we say to ourselves that sabotage us because we have a fear of moving forward. We purposely keep ourselves rooted in fear so that we don’t have to look at what we might actually have if we just believed in ourselves and let go. It’s natural. It’s frustrating. It’s going to keep us stuck if we’re not willing to kick it to the curb.
Some of the things you may hear yourself saying: “My client’s wouldn’t pay that much”, “I could never offer that service”, “That would never work in my profession”. Do you see how these statements are completely self-sabotaging? You are saying them, and believing them to be true. Your fear of moving forward is causing you to purposely stay stuck.
What if you changed these statements to: “My clients will happily pay me what I am worth” “I am going to offer this new service, and my audience is going to love it” “This will work great in my profession”. Even if you don’t quite entirely believe what you are saying (yet!) you will begin to see shift and changes simply by changing your phrasing. You WILL start to believe what you’re saying, because that is simply how it works!
You and only YOU are responsible for your failure or success. Once you kick fear to the curb you will SOAR!
It’s important that we start to recognize fear, beliefs, and how they are self-sabotaging. They can be scary and overwhelming to look at, but it’s SO vital to your own sanity and your success.
My wise Life Coach, Laura Erdman-Luntz taught me these 4 things to keep in mind when going through change:
Now it’s your turn! Post in the comments: what are you doing to sabotage yourself? How can you turn this around and STOP doing it?!
Amy Zellmer is a Creative Coach who lives in Saint Paul, MN with her Yorkie, Pixxie. She works with Creative Entrepreneurs who are ready to work through the issues that are holding them back and keeping them stuck. She believes that we ALL deserve as much success as we aspire to have, and she can help you get there!! Grab her free toolkit “3 Simple Strategies To Supercharge Your SUCCESS!!” at: www.mycreativebizcoach.com
I love this statement – it really made me prick my ears up, “We purposely keep ourselves rooted in fear so that we don’t have to look at what we might actually have if we just believed in ourselves and let go”. Powerful stuff. Thanks
I love to hear that it hit home with you!